The Shoe Doesn't Fit

Even before you hold your precious, beautiful baby ~ there are dreams. Dreams of the future. Maybe he'll be a baseball star. Or the star quarterback. Maybe she'll become a dancer. Or a writer. As you decorate the nursery and pick out a stroller, these dreams form. What happens when the beautiful baby grows and has their own opinions and dreams? What if instead of being the quarterback, your given a boy that doesn't even like sports? Or a girl that likes to play in the mud? What happens if your faced with ADD or autism? What happens when our dreams as parents does not match our reality? Do you try to force your opinions on them? Maybe make 'suggestions' all the time, but in reality just telling what to do? Seriously, if your parents told you that your going to like it ~ do you think you would have? I know that I would have went the other direction. (In fact, my mom would never let me color my hair. When I turned 18, not only did I color my hair ~ I picked out black. It was terrible!! I looked like Snow White! LOL) As parents, we must let our crib dreams go. We have to embrace our children as they are. Where they are. We must make new dreams with our children for our children! After all, it's about them! :) Look at things from their perspective. Imagine never being accepted just as you are by your parents. Always feeling like your not good enough because you parents want to change you. Which must mean they don't love you for who you are. It's like forcing your foot into a shoe that doesn't fit. Children are a blessing created by God. They are created just as God planned. There are no mistakes that these are the children (or child) that you are given. Their strengths, God knows and accepts. Their weaknesses, God knows and accepts. We need to love our children so unconditionally that there is never any doubt in their minds ~ They are loved.

"The child must know that he is a miracle, that since the beginning of

the world there hasn't been, and until the end of the world there

will not be, another child like him."

~ Pablo Casals